How can one get rid of lustful thoughts?

The question is not about lustful thoughts.

It is nature of everyone human being to be happy.

Yes, everyone is looking to be happy.

It’s like this, everyone is addicted to something or the other.

Yes, even your ambitions, career, doing charity, being successful is also an addiction. Just that our society is not dependant on sex.

If it was then the person with maximum sexual feelings would be the king.

Unfortunately, our society still has some good things left where hard work, honesty, relationships, love, ambitions run the world.

We all want to be happy through these things.

Yes, we can but we have to understand that we can only be happy to an extent with all these. No one ever had a fully happy family, career, or 24/7 libido.

No person in this world is fully happy. Lustful thoughts also is just temporary happiness. I mean is it possible to be happy with lust for 24 hours.

No right, then put this firmly in your head that lustful thoughts will not give you happiness 24/7.

What you want is 24/7 happiness, every human wants it. Point is you think lust will give it.

Say if you are addicted to porn. What about your hunger, daily works etc. Forget i am not even mentioning about your social circle, parents, career etc.

How long can you balance, sooner or later wheels will come off.

So we all know you can’t be happy with lust or family or career.

Now i don’t want to be preachy. All i am telling is everyone human is wanting to be happy, same for you but lustful thoughts will not work at all. In fact, career, family, money are all good, but not good enough.

It just requires a bit of consciousness.

Say its like this no matter how hungry you are, I give you a delicious food with poison and a very healthy non tasty food.

Which one will you choose?
No matter how tasty, tempting the food is you will choose the health non tasty food.

See anything for that matter if its in the starting stage you can come out of it.

But you have to take immediate steps to come out of it.

So the thing is you have to come out of it as soon as possible.

If you are in some deep addiction then you will need to take help from your social circle.

This is the challenging part, but i am sure everyone will have one soul/person who is concerned about it. But you must be sure whether this person is willing to put his neck out and help you come out of it.

It can be your teachers, elders, grandparents.

You can even meet a group like alcoholic anonymous etc. and get yourself filled with people who are always there to help you.

Look for nearby psychology counsellors, seek help.

No matter which part of the world you are.

Just keep looking for help, be at it.

Just a matter of time. But just keep seeking how you want to get rid of lust.

This is the easiest and best way.

Now you are still not able to come out.

Then you have to understand one thing.

Lust is what? You are attracted to human body.

This beauty is nothing but skin, flesh, urine, feaces, sweat.

Next time you get lustful thoughts, think like this.

The person whom you are lusting, try to mentally peel their skin, what to do you see inside.

You see skin, flesh.

When you go further deep you see bones.

Think about the wrinkles in old age people get it. This is the truth of your lust.

The fact is you are just attracted to flesh.

Humans have sexual feeling just like any creature on this earth which is for just mating and giving birth to offsprings.

Agreed, there is nothing wrong having lustful thoughts once in a while but this is where it all starts.

Now what i am trying to say is there is not a single use of lustful thoughts.

Still feel you can’t come out of it.

Think like this. What if i gave you medicine which will you make forget that you are addicted lust or porn right away?

No matter how much addicted to lust you are, you will surely take that medicine or magic pill.

So every human himself knows that lustful thoughts beyond a point is useless.

There is no question of right or wrong, the first point is its useless and that’s it.

Now you can discuss whether its right or wrong. It’s up to you.

Get a group, now, Be at it.

I know in today’s world its a bit hard, movies, culture, where ever you go. You are easily exposed to sexual feelings.

But truth is we all know its wrong a beyond point.

We all know its useless.

Its like this imagine if you get the same pleasure in some other activity, will you not go for it.

Find that new activity. Just go for it. But ensure its a productive activity.

So the problem is not lustful thoughts, i say don’t even bother about it.

Just find a replacement for it but this time be conscious about the choice, what do you want tasty poison food or the healthy non tasty food.